In the news, it’s being reported that a 60-year old New Jersey woman has given birth to twin boys, making her the oldest known American woman to give birth. The discussion has not been one of amazement, but more of irresponsibility and woman’s rights.
I heard about this from the Today show this morning. They did an interview with the new mother — uh, Congratulations BTW… Meridith (the Today anchor) asked her how she was doing – not why? But the mother proceeded to explain that she wanted only to prove a point… that a woman her age and of the baby-boomer generation could still have kids.
My jaw hit the floor.
I expected her to say, “Oh thanks… It’s really a ‘modern miracle,’ and thanks to the doctors for making this happen.” Instead she was explaining how she’s just trying to show other women that they can do this and she hopes to be a role model to other women. You mean, she didn’t have the babies because she wanted kids?!?!?
Now, I have nothing against feminism or women’s rights or any of that… but I have to say that this woman (and I hate to sound cliche’) — very unfair to those kids. My first reaction was, “I hope she’s well off and can take care of those kids.” But after hearing the interview, I’m thinking “She’s a horrible person… very selfish.” Those kids will grow up with a mother who cares more for her political cause than her impact on her kids. What kind of role model is that?!? When she’s 78, she’ll be on the sidelines of a high-school ball field watching her kids play some sport for their school… If she lives to be 82, she’ll see her kids graduate from college. I hope her older years won’t require any kind of long-term care or medical expenses… because her prime earning years are behind her and she’s going to have a tough time sending her kids through college if that’s the case… unless she’s very wealthy.
On top of all this, she’s 60. While there are many 60+ seniors who can handle a high energy life style – kids (twins, no less) will push even a younger set of parents to the edge (believe me I know). Not being able to care for them personally (ie, if she just hires a governess or nanny to care for them 24×7) is just wrong as well. Those kids won’t get the parenting or the love or the guidance they need and deserve.
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All of this makes me think of an old school-mate of mine… In 6th grade, I was in the same class as Strom Thurmond Jr. (son of the late Senator Strom Thurmond from South Carolina). I specifically remember being surprised to find out his dad was this quite old fella with white hair, and his mom was a much younger woman. It was quite the talk of the classroom when we found out.
That situation was rather different, primarily because one of the parents was “young” and one was “old”… but it was also very different because the older parent was the father. Yes, it’s a double standard, and maybe it’s unfair… but feminism can’t change the biological facts that a woman’s primary child-bearing years are in the younger part of life — not the later part. As a big believer in “survival of the fittest” there’s certainly a reason for that, don’t you think.